Lately, I have been, in my opinion, overly envious of those whom have things I do not. What I choose to see is the good that everyone else has, without seeing the trials and troubles. I look past my own good in life and see only my troubles and heartaches. By seeing only the good things and happenings of others and focusing on only the troubles in my life I create a hell on earth, so to speak. Some have what I do not, but they also have things that I myself struggle with. People aren’t just rainbows and sunshine, there is pain and suffering that we all go through. From physical aliments to mental, from abuse to seclusion. It is time I set some challenges for myself and any others whom would like to join me. Today I start a journey of Compassion and Celebration. What does this mean exactly? According to Wikipedia compassion is the virtue of empathy for the suffering of others. It is regarded as a fundamental part of human love, and a cornerstone of greater social interconnection and humanism. I feel the need to define these words (compassion, empathy, love, and affection) because I feel that in today’s world they have become simply words with no meaning. The word love, for example, is used so often for so many things that we have forgotten its true meaning. We apply it to things that are not “real” instead of applying it toward each other. We love our cars, movies, phones, cameras, etc… and yet we rarely love each other. Love is so often applied to “family love” and “romantic love”. But what does this mean? Do we really mean we “love” someone or is it just a word we say? We don’t leave hearts on our guy/girl friends facebook walls just to show we love them, because of course this would mean we are “interested” in them. But at the same time, it should never be overused in playful banter because it then again loses its meaning. It is only when the intent has meaning that the word, the heart, comes alive and beats.
Compassion: The virtue of empathy for the suffering of others
Empathy: The ability to understand and share the feelings of another
Love: An intense feeling of deep affection
Affection: A gentle feeling of fondness or liking
I used to believe that I had to “work” on myself, to heal, before I could have true love and compassion for others. Yesterday was a long day full of great conversations and revelations that were not realized until this morning while writing this blog. Which actually was starting off as a sort of virtual hand slap to myself for being envious of others, but transformed into a deeper meaningful lesson and journey. I found myself, yesterday during some after church conversations, trying to speed some conversations along so I could talk to other people. When I realized what I was doing, I stopped, and I listened. My mind quieted and all I heard was what the other person was saying. I felt them, I was with them, and I could see the change in them as they knew I was actually hearing them. I later then got to talk on the computer with Jimmy! In retrospect I think I, more or less, word vomited a lot, but he allowed me to “unload” my mind. Which is exactly what I needed, because today I can think much more clearly without all the non-sense rattling around in my head.
I just finished watching these two TED talks on Love and Compassion. I invite you to take the time to watch them, for they could greatly impact your way of thinking.
Love to you all,